How Is This About You?

“Humble yourself, therefore under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,” (1 Peter 5:6 EVS)

            Being humble is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking less about yourself. We must remind ourselves to stay humble, stay focused and most of all stay one with God.

I have noticed that we as individuals, struggle with the need and the want to be noticed or to be number one all the time. The urge to say look at me I did that or how everything has to be about us. I hate to tell you but you will never be at number one or at the top (unless it’s the top of a mountain) we even have to realize that we might not get noticed all the time. You might not get noticed at all. So that’s why I ask the question “How is this about you?” We have to come to the understanding that God is our only number one, he is the only one at the top and the one that should be noticed when others see you.

You see God lets us go through situations to bring us back to focus. So our need to say “I did that”, is like you’re saying no one helped me to get to where I’m at, because “I did that”. I’m not going to lie I’ve said that line before and not really even knowing that it could be taken in the wrong way. Then reminding myself that you have to remember that without Gods we wouldn’t be able to say those three words, because through his grace all things are possible.  Once we understand what humble means then we can show less of us and more of God. When we look into the word humble, it gives the definition of not having or showing any feelings of superiority, self-assertiveness, or showiness.

For example in the bible God uses Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego to prove to Nebuchadnezzar who thought himself a god that he was not the most powerful. He wanted the three men to abide by the Babylon’s law to worship (Dan. 3:16-18). But soon realized that he could not get these three men to render, so he became filled with fury. Nebuchadnezzar must have had a look of discus on his face for the men denied him as their god saying to himself “how dare you refuse me.” With that being said this was only part of how God showed Nebuchadnezzar that with faith in him anything was possible.

But it wasn’t until his vision or dream (Dan. 4:10-17) that changed who Nebuchadnezzar was. A dream or vision of seeing a tree reaching the heavens, and just imagine a tree of beauty that provide everything from shade, food, and shelter for the birds. But in that same dream the tree is being chopped down and the shelter, food, and shade it provided was no more. Nothing but a stump with its roots was left to get wet from the dew of heaven and its portions with the beasts. It was a dream to which Nebuchadnezzar could not understand.

So he was at the hands of one who could, Daniel, better known as Belteshazzar. Who was the chief of the magicians, explained the dream to him by letting him know that “it is you” (Dan. 4:22-27), because Nebuchadnezzar in his eyes had grown in greatness and strength which in his eyes had reached the heavens and he considered himself as god. After Belteshazzar interpretation of Nebuchadnezzar’s dream he told him it was a decree from the most high that has come upon him.

Nebuchadnezzar was later after twelve months his kingdom had departed from him and he was driven from his pedestal and from his people by a voice from heaven. Made a beast of the land, and made to eat grass like an Ox. Being wet from the dew from heaven and grew hair long as an eagles feathers. It was then after time had passed that he praised God and honored him for he is the only true God. And because of this he was humbled by God (Dan. 4:37).

I know after reading about Nebuchadnezzar, and then looking over your own life some of you might be asking, but HOW? The bible gives us an excellent answer.

“If my people who are called by me name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways. Then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land” (2 Chronicles 7:14 ESV)

We can’t do this on our own, as Gods children we have to stay true to his word and in his word. By following his teachings and his commandments. I know we all go through situations in our life and we have to make some pretty difficult choices on wrong and right. But making the right choice of being kind as Jesus was kind for us as he was nailed on the cross for our sins. We are all guilty of something and to think that we are more important or more deserving then the next, then Jesus dyeing for our sins was for nothing. He put us before himself as we should put others before ourselves.

Coming to realize that I is just a word of self and not a word of us, once we all realize that, then we can live in unity as one body.

So how is this about you, again?

The struggles of being a single parent…

This is going to be a hard one for me to write, but it my opinion and/experience. I know I am not the only single mother in the world that have struggles and I can completely understand where they are coming from. But this thing called struggles, challenges you to be a rock star every day. It never fails that your struggles are going to push you to try harder each and every day. I have made it this far and I don’t plan on giving up, and yes, I might cry sometimes, but I pick myself up wipe my face, and keep praying and thanking God that I have come this far. Then I realize that it is all worth it; the bible tells us in James 1:2-4 ESV says,

Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

See I am a single mother of 2 boys my oldest that is 18 and my youngest is 9, my oldest is about to go off to college and he is so excited about it. I am so proud of him and what he has accomplished and overcame. When he was in elementary they diagnosed him with ADHD and we started him on meds right away, thinking that was my best option to help him (I was completely wrong). It wasn’t until I really looked into what I was really giving my son and wondering why he wasn’t himself. The meds he was on was the worst and I took him off ASAP the Dr. was mad, and I did not care one bit. It was then that I begin to look into other options to care for him without the meds, it was challenging at times the teachers would call constantly with complaints, but I pushed through. After reading and really understanding what ADHD really was, was when the change from an unhealthy lifestyle to a more homeopathic life took place and it has helped tremendously. Now he is older, he has been through some tough times in school but has also overcame those times with his favorite verse from Philippians 4:13 ESV which says,

13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”

Now my boys are very different in all kinds of ways. My youngest is very quiet and he shuts down when he gets frustrated and overwhelmed with some things. I would get calls from the teacher that he would sit under the table or in the hallway and not come into the room or he would just stop talking. They would try every, and anything to get him to respond but failed. He is a great kid with an awesome spirit and will smile at anything. I started to become very worried and decided to have him evaluated; the lady said that he has a little bit of anxiety form the test she performed and that is about all, she would not recommend meds or counseling, she felt that we could handle this another way. So like his brother I am on the hunt for a natural remedy to help him the only way I know how which is reading, (I know you can’t believe everything you read) read any and everything about anxiety that I can just to understand it. It never fails when looking for an answer we can always find it in the word of God. Philippians 4:6-7 ESV says,

do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

           I do the best I can for my boys with what I have, like many parents do; we push until we come up with a better solution or until something works then we stick with it.

My task is somewhat hard (to me), because I am not a man that can show his son all the manly things to do in different situations. But I thank God for brothers and Uncles that are true Godly man and they have stepped in to help me raise my boys. By the time we have kids we should have done all the stupid things we wanted to and now in a place of settling down because we are older and a little wiser. Nowadays we should be focused on our kids as they play a multitude of sports. Go through ups and downs in school with homework, peers, teachers and even themselves. Teaching them to not do the stupid things we did growing up, telling them to make the right decisions and choices, because the choices they make now will follow them.

As a mother I live life and go through it like normal, or as normal as I see it. I don’t really focus on all the struggles I have to go through just to raise two boys to be men that are respectful and responsible men at that. It is not until I am having a hard time paying the bills when I hits me and I begin to panic and go downhill fast, depression kicks in, anxiety begins to take over. But I have to pinch myself and remind me that I did not get this far alone, it was with God who has helped me through it all when it seemed that nothing was getting any better or when I just wanted to give all the way up. Then it dawns on me that I was given two lives to mold into Godly men to teach them that we are here on purpose and for a purpose. Proverbs 22:6 ESV says,

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

As a parent we must live by this verse. I know every family have their struggles, ours, we are always busy with a sport and we don’t really have that moment to really talk about what is going on in their daily activities or life.

We as parents, single or not, we all have a task; my task is to be there for my kids no matter what. Yes kids will get on that last nerve, but I come to realize, that I have to understand my kids by truly understanding their wants (they always want something) and needs. But my ultimate goal is to achieve is to teach my kids how to live life in a way that honors God first and their success will come. I am not a pro by any means, but I have been told that I have raised my boys pretty good on my own to be very respectful young men. Now that really touched my heart and I am proud. Lastly, with all the things we as parents or single parents go through just know this we can find rest in the Lord. Matthew 11:28-30 ESV says,

28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

The Newness of Life

The start of a new year was the start of a new situation, better understanding, different perspectives and a whole new journey. I started blogging thinking I was ready, but then the bug got me and I became fearful that no one would like what I had to say and that I would fail.

BUT NOT THIS YEAR. This is my year to do better for myself.

2018 is my year for obedience to God, I will read (Bible) more and even write, which I do. I just don’t post them or I wait too long (I think) to post it. This year is also the year of abundance and favor. Coming up with my word for 2018 was not easy as some would think, and no, I just didn’t pull a word out of the top of my head. I was in prayer to God asking him to reveal that one word that is most important to for me to focus on. And in that quiet time with Him, He revealed the word OBEDIENCE.

There was no shock there because I knew that I was not that in 2017 and needed to do better. After that He sent me two other words from a great inspirational lady I follow on Facebook and those words were ABUNDANCE and FAVOR.

So, God gave me the first task, which for me to complete one that I was supposed to do in 2017; which was to read all of Proverbs.  I did start reading it last year and I’m not going to lie I wasn’t really all that focused or into reading it like I needed to be.  So I only read to chapter 2 (ugh). We all fall short sometimes but having learned our lesson from our disobedience the last time, we have to pick ourselves up and find our focus (God) again. By being obedient and letting God take lead over our life and the situations that life might (will) bring, we begin to lean on faith in God. Hebrews 11:1 says,

“To have faith is to be sure of the things we hope for, to be certain of the things we cannot see.”

I have to rely on my faith in God because He has never nor will He ever lead in the wrong direction. I get scared sometimes as we all do, but I have to stay focused on Him and the direction He is leading me on. No direction is perfect and yes there will be some hills and some stops along the way, yet that’s what make us who we are -perfectly imperfect people. We should be excited knowing that He has total faith in us, even when we don’t have faith in Him or ourselves at times.

A Seven on Seven to Remember

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This has been a great Sunday I was able to spend time with my oldest son that afternoon as he prepared for a seven on seven game with the church. We made it to the field rather early and decided to walk around the Plano Senior High track and just talk; that was the best one on one time I have ever had with my son. He is so goofy and smart – he has a lot to talk about!

I had the best time watching the youth pastor, my son and a great group of boys and girls from Parkway Hills Baptist Church in Plano, TX play their seven on seven game against another church. These boys are so competitive in everything they do, and when it comes to football no questions asked – they take it to the next level.

Two teams came out of Parkway Hills Baptist Church. These boys were so organized that they got together and coordinated the colors of their uniforms. They even wore football cleats! All the while, I’m thinking, “Boys its not that serious, you’re just playing against another church!” One team was in blue and black and the other team in all black. They represented their church very well with outstanding sportsmanship. They might have been a little rough at times on some of the other players from the other church; but very polite and humble. Most of the boys are from Shepton High and West Plano Senior School and most of them play on the football team for the schools.

This was a seven on seven event to remember. I can still see all the fun these boys had, it showed all over their faces. I could tell that they have a passion for this sport and for the church. When they lost a game, they did it with their heads up. They might have been sad, but it didn’t damper their spirits.

 

Let me just jump right into it and say Hello!

I’ve had this blog up and running for a couple of months now but haven’t been able to get started. I was so ready and excited but then; I started to question myself, which you should never do trust me. I think I am more scared then anything, I really don’t want this to be my first train wreck nor do I want to give up. I would like to come to you very genuine and have this be a place that you would like to keep coming back to for tips, advice, ideas, or just to check out what I am doing on a day to day bases. I will not have that perfect grammar, or sentence structure our teachers drilled in us in grade school. But this will be a place where we can stay connected a place to continue coming  back to for ideas and a good read.